MEET GAY MEN IN PERSON the way it used to work
Curated events for gay men in London — singles, couples, friends, first-timers — everyone welcome
Loneliness is the gay epidemic nobody's curing
London can be the loneliest city for gay men. Same crowds, same bars, same scroll. So we built rooms where the whole community can show up — try something new, meet people who aren't on the apps, and leave feeling lighter. Every ticket is heavily subsidised so cost is never the reason you skip community.
FoD presents: Josh Silver, Author - Fruit Fly
📚 An evening of queer storytelling, conversation and connection.
Join bestselling author Josh Silver (Fruit Fly) for an intimate evening in association with Voda, the LGBTQ+ mental wellbeing app.
Interviewed by Jaron Soh, Founder of Voda, the evening will feature a live interview with Josh, an audience Q&A, book signing and the chance to explore the themes of friendship, identity & mental health
£15 ticket includes copy of Fruit Fly
🥂 Post-event drinks & social: Meet Josh and connect with other guests from 9:30pm onwards.
What's on next book before they go
Our most popular events — automatically sorted by date so the next one's always first. Sold-out events take you to the waitlist signup.
Friend of Dorothy presents: BOYFRIEND FINDER - Gay Speed Dating with Your Internet Boyfriends
Your Internet Boyfriends, Denis Len and Mark T Cox are here to find you a summer romance. A night packed with cuties, games, good music, cool drinks, and lots of goodies thanks to Friend of Dorothy.
🧗♂️ GAY MEN GO ROCK CLIMBING
Join a group of adventurous, chaotic and moderately athletic gay men for an evening of climbing, laughing, falling off walls dramatically and hopefully making some new connections along the way.
🏺 Pottery Workshop with Lucas Buttchewits
A relaxed, hands-on introduction to pottery designed for all levels. Whether you’ve never touched clay before or already enjoy creative work, this workshop offers a welcoming space to try something new
🏺 Pottery Workshop with Lucas Buttchewits
A relaxed, hands-on introduction to pottery designed for all levels. Whether you’ve never touched clay before or already enjoy creative work, this workshop offers a welcoming space to try something new
✏️ Gay Men's Life Drawing Class
Sketch, socialise and connect at our gay men’s life drawing night at Ministry — a relaxed, body-positive evening with male models, creativity and community at its heart.
Gay Men's STRENGTH SWEAT With Workout with pride
Friend of Dorothy Presents: Workout With Pride This high-energy functional fitness class is suitable for all abilities and focuses on building strength, confidence and wellbeing in a welcoming, judgement-free environment.
Dance Class with Friend of Dorothy x Alpha Dancers
Join us for a themed dance class with Alpha Dancers, a high-energy, feel-good session designed for all levels.
Queer Men's Fine Wine Tasting at Hedonism Wines
Exclusive wine tasting at Hedonism Wines, one of London's most celebrated wine merchants, for a luxurious evening of Champagne & fine wines tasting along side fabulous conversation.
Gay Men Paddle London: Kayak or Canoe Experience
Choose a kayak, canoe, or stand-up paddleboard, this is your chance to get active while meeting people in a relaxed, social setting.
An Evening with Josh Silver, Bestselling Author of Fruit FlyIn Association with Voda
Join bestselling author Josh Silver (Fruit Fly) for an intimate evening in association with Voda, the LGBTQ+ mental wellbeing app. Interviewed by Jaron Soh, Founder of Voda, the evening will feature a live interview with Josh, an audience Q&A, book signing and the chance to explore the themes of friendship, identity & mental health
Gay Men's Cooking Club: Empanada Masterclass
A relaxed evening of cooking, conversation and community as we learn to make delicious handmade empanadas from scratch before sitting down to enjoy them together.
Gay Men's Whiskey Tasting @ Low Country
Good whiskey is even better when it's shared. Join us for an evening of exceptional bourbon, rye and conversation as we explore some incredible American whiskeys together at Lowcountry.
Join the Friend of Dorothy WhatsApp Community
Connect with other gay men, stay up to date with upcoming Friend of Dorothy events, and be part of a community built around real-life connection.
What it looks like when it actually works
Photos from past events. No models, no staging — just guys from our community having a good time.
We made the events we wished existed
Two guys, one frustration: every gay event in London felt like the same crowd, the same body type, the same conversation. So we built something different — for the rest of us.
When I moved to London I thought I'd meet my people instantly. Five years in, I realised the apps weren't community — they were a slot machine. I wanted rooms where you could meet someone over a flower arrangement, or a board game, not over whether you were each other's type.
I've worked in LGBT marketing for 20 years and watched the community fragment into smaller, harder-to-enter cliques — the fitness ones, the chemsex ones, the elite ones. We wanted the opposite: everyone welcome. Single or partnered, 24 or 64, jacked or not. If you're here, you belong.
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Everyone. And we mean everyone
We've seen too many gay groups become gatekept little fiefdoms — only six-packs, only 20s, only couples, only chems. Our events are the opposite. Here's what 'welcome' actually means with us:
Most of our guys showed up solo too
It's the most common worry we hear: what if I don't know anyone? Here's how we make sure first-timers leave feeling like they belong.
You won't be the only solo guy
More than 60% of our attendees come alone. The room is built for it — that's the whole point.
We greet you at the door
One of us is at the door for every event. Tell us it's your first time and we'll introduce you to people right away.
The activity does the work
Flower arranging, board games, kayaking — they're conversation starters. You don't have to make small talk from cold.
Leave when you want
No pressure to stay till the end. Many people come for 90 minutes and head home. That's totally normal.
Real Moments. Inside The Event.
Real moments from the event, captured as they happened.
Real reviews, real receipts
Finally a gay event where I felt seen
I'm 47 and most gay events make me feel ancient. The flower arranging night had every type of guy — single, coupled, all ages. Left with a bouquet and three new Instagram follows.
My first gay event ever
Was so nervous to come alone. Within 10 minutes someone introduced themselves at the bar. By the end I'd swapped numbers with four guys. Coming back next month.
Kayaking was a vibe
Didn't expect to find community on the Thames at 11am on a Sunday but here we are. The pastries after were chef's kiss. £15 for all of that — unreal.
Not what I expected (in the best way)
Came expecting a Grindr-style scene. Got a board game night where people actually talked. So refreshing.
Worth every penny (which is barely any)
£10 for a wine tasting that would cost £40 anywhere else. And the sommelier was patient with my zero knowledge. Class act.
The rooftop party was the best of summer
200 of the loveliest guys, free flower crowns, a DJ that knew what they were doing. Already buying tickets for next year.
There's more than just events
We're a wellness brand. Events are how we build community in person — but we also make supplements and run a digital health service for the things you'd never talk about in front of friends.
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See everything we have coming up — pulled live from our events app. New events added weekly.
Come once. See what happens
You don't have to commit to anything. Pick one event, see if it's your kind of room, leave when you want. Most guys come back. None of them regret it.