Gay men, how long should you really last in bed?

Eight quick questions to find out whether your stamina goals come from real life, or from a studio in the Valley. Finish it and there is a free gift waiting.

Takes about 90 seconds. No judgement, just facts.

Your result
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The reality check

5 to 7 minRoughly how long the average bloke lasts once penetration starts, according to stopwatch studies of real couples. The median in the biggest study was 5.4 minutes.
Under 2 minWhere clinicians start to talk about premature ejaculation, and only if it happens most of the time and bothers you.
30 to 40 minWhat a typical porn scene looks like on screen. It was shot over hours, with breaks, multiple takes, and an editor stitching the best bits together.

If you've been measuring yourself against that last number, you've been failing a test nobody real has ever passed.

If you want to last longer anyway

  • Edge on your own first. Get close, stop, breathe, repeat. It teaches your body where the point of no return actually is.
  • Train your pelvic floor. Kegels and, just as important, learning to relax it. A clenched pelvic floor speeds you up.
  • Slow the breathing. Fast shallow breaths tell your body to hurry. Long exhales do the opposite.
  • Change position or pace before you hit the edge, not after.
  • Go easy on the booze and skip the pre-hookup porn. Both mess with your baseline.
  • Talk to a clinician if you regularly finish in under a minute or two and it's getting to you. There are proper treatments, and it's a lot more common than anyone admits.
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